Wednesday, March 11, 2009

75 year old widow to be flogged

When I started this blog I started with the intention of explaining what went on in the Middle East, without any emotion. The thought was, if I explained clearly and consisely about customs then maybe one person might understand a little more about this area.

Today, I'm sad.  Actually I don't have the words to explain how I feel about this recent news.  Even after 23 years of living here, I'm totally and utterly speachless.  No, it's beyond being speach-less, I'm shocked and stunned this witch hunting still exists

So, I've just changed my intended blog and am flagging up something all the locals are talking about, in absolute disbelief. And I'm talking about Sunni and Shiite Gulf Arabs acting with disbelief, not western expats.

As I said, today I'm very saddened by this, but here's the news. I think it needs to be told:


ANI Tuesday 10th March, 2009

Riyadh (Saudi Arabia), Mar 10 : A 75-year-old widow has been sentenced to 40 lashes and four months imprisonment in Saudi Arabia for meeting two young men, who were strangers to her and were reportedly bringing her bread.

Khamisa Sawadi, a Syrian-born woman who was married to a Saudi, was convicted and sentenced last week for meeting men who were not her immediate relatives.

The two 24 year old men, Sawadi's late husband's nephew Fahd al-Anzi and and his friend and business partner Hadiyan bin Zein were also found guilty and sentenced to similar punishments.

According to The Telegraph, the sentence has sparked off new criticism of Saudi Arabia's ultraconservative religious policies, which prohibits men and women who are not immediate relatives from mingling.

The elderly woman met the two men last April after she asked them to bring her five loaves of bread at her home in Al-Chamil, the Saudi newspaper Al-Watan reported.

The court said it based its March 3 ruling on "citizen information" and testimony from Anzi's father, who accused Sawadi of corruption.

"Because she said she doesn't have a husband and because she is not a Saudi, conviction of the defendants of illegal mingling has been confirmed," the court verdict read.

Sawadi commonly relied on her neighbors for help after her husband died, said Saudi journalist Bandar al-Ammar.

Abdel Rahman al-Lahem, Sawadi's lawyer, told The Associated Press on Monday that he plans to appeal the verdict, which also demands that she be deported after serving her prison term.




Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Hot & Cold Food

Many GCC nationals, in a manner similar to the Chinese, divide food into two groups, 'hot' and 'cold'. Hot foods are said to give you spots and stomach aches, whilst cold food does neither.

At the height of the mango season (may & june) the people who've eaten endless alfonsos [al-fon-soes] and tutapuries [tu-ta-pur-rees] can be spotted ~ha ha~ because of the zits on their faces.




Photo above: the first alphonsoes of the season, bought yesterday afternoon (March 11th)



Hot Foods
Fruit: mango, papaya
Shell fish: prawns, mussels, cockles and other shell fish


Cold Foods
Everything else



Photo above:  Awal Mango Juice, possibly the nicest-tasting, pre-packeded mango juice in Bahrain, Kuwait and Iraq.


Urban Legend
It is said local girls who need/want to have an abortion eat green papayas. They also use the drug Duphaston, which is banned in the GCC, but can (to the best of my knowledge) be bought in India.


Monday, March 9, 2009

Washing Up



Although this subject, 'washing up' is a minute point, when I first came across it it stopped me in my tracks.

How could something so simple be carried out in a way so completely different to what I'd always experienced?  And why on earth would anyone do it differently from the way I'd always done it?

It really did amaze me and it was the thing that started me thinking about cross-cultural communication and how absolutely everything can be different in someone else's culture.


Washing up in England
I was brought up in England where we'd always do the washing up in a bowl.  Gloves were always worn (to protect your hands) and then the taps would be turned on.  The water would run into the washing up bowl until the bowl was full and then they would be turned off.

The dirty washing would then be put into the bowl and the washing-up liquid added to the water.  Bubbles then appear and you'd use a mop or cloth to clean the dishes.  Once the crockery was clean from the meal left-overs, the dishes would be stood vertically in a rack to dry.


Washing up in the GCC
In the Middle East none of the above happens.

Washing up liquid is put into a container which stands at the side of the sink for the duration of the washing up activity. Water is added to the container and made into a thick liquid which is used to clean the dishes. The tap is turned on and left running.

The person doing the washing up (often a servant or house boy), picks up the plates one by one, dips the sponge ~I don't even know if you can buy a w-up mop, I should look~ into the washing up liquid continer at the side of the sink, cleans the plate and then puts the sponge back in the container at the side of the sink.

The plate is then put under the running tap again and all traces of the soap suds are washed away (it is deemed unhyginic to leave soap suds on a plate you will eat from).  The plate is then turned up side down and put on the drainer at the side of the sink ~I've never seen a drainer in the Middle East~


Insults
1
A real slight by an Arab to another Arab would be to say their drinking glasses "smell of fish". It subtly indicates all sorts of things;  money is hard to come by,  the dishes aren't washed properly or are unclean (a real insult) and the servants aren't being organised.

The background to this insult comes from the insinuation that until about 20 years ago, fish was very cheap in the Gulf and therefore considered to be a poor man's food.  Because of this, and because cooked fish has such a pungent smell, many households now disinfect their entire stock of glassware once a week to ensure the fish smell doesn’t build up.

One lady I know is regularly insulted by her mother-in-law because every time she visits, the mother in law tells her she can smell fish in her water glasses.


2
Fish smells are still used to describe the, 'great unwashed'.

For example should someone be telling you a story about having to go to a public building e.g. a ministry or hospital, they could very well describe and act out how strong the fish smell was, using great big hand movements and holding their noses for too long (!) too dramatically (!) whilst making blowing noises with persed lips (!) as a natural and integrated part of the story ~such lively, dramatic fun to watch~


Sunday, March 8, 2009

Some Stories

Although Arab friends found these stories amusing enough to send on as e.mail jokes, they really didn't do much for me smile-wise. Amusing, but definately not rip-cracking - I think crossing cultures with humour and jokes is super-hard.

Anyway see what you think and if you have any of your own, please cut and paste them at the bottom of this blog, laughing is always good :-)


1. An Egyptian Interview

Reporter: Hi
Egyptian: Hello

Reporter: Do you speak English?
Egyptian: Berfect

Reporter: Do you mind if I interview you?
Egyptian: No, I don't have a mind

Reporter: What's your name?
Egyptian: Taha

Reporter: Sex?
Taha: I love it

Reporter: Oh no, I meant male or female?
Taha (yelling): What do you sink?

Reporter: It's just for the sake of the report. Never mind ... male ...
Taha: No ... I like female

Reporter: How do you find life here in Egypt?
Taha: Egybt ...Very nice cantry ... nice wezar ... nice food ... byramidz

Reporter : Oh well ... beside the weather and the Pyramids ... What else do you like in your country?
Taha: Byramids, nice wezar, nice food

Reporter: DO YOU WORK?
Taha: Yas, when I am not buzy ...

Reporter: What do you think about the traffic problem in Egypt?
Taha: Very big broblem ... very much cars ... you see? ... but za guvurment is trying to make it bettar ... zey did za circle street and za mehwar street ... and zey make all streets one way so if you go ... you can't come back!!!

Reporter: What about the economic problems in Egypt?
Taha: I do not undurztand what you say

Reporter: I mean ... how do you deal with money problems in Egypt?
Taha: Egypt very rich cantry ... we have alot of cotton ... alot of water ... and we have byramidz

Reporter: So do you make a lot of money?
Taha : No, no ... it is not legal to make money ... one frend I know make money at home ... and he go to brizon ... if you make money at home ... you will go to brizon

Reporter: Let me rephrase ... since Egypt is a rich country ... do you have a lot of money?
Taha: me? ... Not a lot … but I eat and drink Alhamdulelah?

Reporter: Then where does all the money go?
Taha: Guvurment

Reporter: And what does the government do with the money?
Taha: Zey Build circle street, mehwar street and make all streets one way

Reporter: Well , Ok ... Do you vote?
Taha: What duz zat mean?

Reporter: Do you choose your president?
Taha: Who, Mubarak?

Reporter: Yes
Taha (nervously): I didn't give my voice ... But if I was. I will give him my voice

Reporter: Why him?
Taha: Because he was an airoplane in za war ... he waz za leadar airoplane

Reporter: But there are no wars right now
Taha: But if we have war ... you see? ...We know we will have a very good airoplane in it

Reporter: What about the last 26 years?
Taha: I got marry ... and have Ahmed and Amira ... and……….

Reporter: No, I meant Mubarak.

Taha: He also marry… and have …

Reporter (interrupting): No, I meant what did Mubarak do for Egypt in the last 26 years?
Taha: He build Circle Street, Mehwar Street and make all streets one way

Reporter: Thank you very much for your time Mr. Taha
Taha: No broblem, only 10 bounds

Reporter: I never said I will pay you for this
Taha: ok ok. Zanks a lot.


2. Lebanese Business Deals

Abou Steif (father): I want you to marry a girl of my choice.
Steif: 'I will choose my own bride!!! '

Abou Steif: 'But the girl is Bill Gates's daughter.. '
Steif: 'Well, in that case... ok'

Next Abou Steif approaches Bil Gates.
Abou Steif: 'I have a husband for your daughter.... '

Bill Gates: 'But my daughter is too young to marry!!!!! '
Abou Steif: 'But this young man is a vice-president of the World Bank. '

Bill Gates: 'Ah, in that case... ok'
Finally Abou Steif goes to see the president of the World Bank.

Abou Steif: 'I have a young man to be recommended as a vice-president. '
President: 'But I already have more vice- presidents than I need! '

Abou Steif: 'But this young man is Bill Gates's son-in-law. '
President: 'Ah, in that case... ok'




Saturday, March 7, 2009

Thinking about Divorce?

I have copied and pasted this blog posting from www.americanbedu.com and then added additional comments under each question. Unfortunately it was lifted without referencing, which means the original location is unavailable ~bit frustrating that, I'd like to read the original post~

I'm posting the information as it follows on from, and expands, the wgaw blog posting on what to include in the obligitory pre nup agreement {see wgaw blog archive: pre-nups} in which I promised to add more information as I found it.

The posting below is aimed at American expatriate women who marry Saudi nationals and live in Saudi. However the information is relevant and useful to all women thinking of marrying or who are married to GCC nationals, live within the GCC and who aren't American.

I've also added a glossary of essential terms to make the understanding a little easier:


Glossary

1. sharia/ shareea/ shareeah/ shareea' [shaa-ree-ah]:
"Muslim or Islamic law, both civil and criminal justice as well as regulating individual conduct both personal and moral. The custom-based body of law based on the Koran and the religion of Islam."
This explanation is taken from: www.duhaime.org/LegalDictionary/S/ShariaLaw.aspx


2. muharam/ muhram/ muhraam/ mehram/ mahrim/ maharem
pronounced [mah-rram]
 and not [moo-ha-rram]

A woman's husband or anyone with whom sexual intercourse would be deemed incestous; a male who is allowed to escort a woman.

This will include the woman's immediate male family members, e.g. her brother, son, grandson, father, grandfather, great-grandfather.  But does not include male (women can not be mahrams) cousins, father in law, uncles and non-relatives. In addition it includes the 'rada' [rraa-daa] relatives; any males she has wet-nursed.

The relevant verse in the Qur'an can be found at: Light, 24:31


FAQ

1. Can I leave my husband?
You, as an American, can leave any time, but the kids are another story. In the event of a husband's death, and you have a son who is 21 (or 18 not sure) he may leave with you.
~wgaw: it is 18 {see wgaw blog archive: }. Any child aged between 7 and 18 stays with the current muhram~


2. What if we build a house but put it in my son's name?
If the event of your husband's death happens before the boy is an adult then the in-laws have the right to claim it and do with it as they please.


3. What if we build a house in MY name? (I’m half Saudi)
The house would belong to you. No one would have any say in it.

However, the in-laws could go to court and fight the fact that they do not want their grandchildren to be raised in a home without a man in it for reasons such as safety, men, emergencies, etc. The judge will side with them. They will either force you to move out, or sell your house and move in with your in-laws (or wherever the inlaws want you to be near them) or keep your house and your in laws take the kids.


4. What if my husband wrote a document stating in his death I am allowed to leave with my kids at any time?
The muhram still has to allow it.


5. What if my husband dies and I choose to remarry in Saudi?
The in laws will keep the kids and you go over and visit.
~wgaw: this is not always the case if you marry with a muttah/ mutah {see wgaw blog archive:}.  With a muttah marriage a woman has absoultely no rights what so ever. This includes being banned from seeing your children, if your husband dies or divorces you, should your husband or in-laws decide to do this, no matter how old the children are.~


6. What if my husband makes a will and signs everything over to me?
The judges here do not look at wills as they go by sharia and still divide everything equally.
~wgaw: I'm presuming the word, 'equally' in the sentence above means according to the rules in the Koran.  In which case females recieve half that given to males, as stated in the Qur'an: Women, 4:11; "A male shall inherit twice as much as a female."~


7. What if I co-own some kind of property with my husband, who dies?
His share will be distributed as the judge sees fit to his family.


8. What if my ex-Saudi husband dies? Will I then have custody of the children?
No, his father or brother will.
~wgaw: if the boys are aged between 7 and 18, yes. But if they are aged between 1 and 6 they can stay with their mother, as long as it's a marriage and not a muttah. If the children are aged 18 or older then they can choose who they wish to live with~


Thursday, March 5, 2009

How to Read & Write Arabic 8: KHaa

Today we'll look at the seventh letter of the Arabic alphabet, KHaa. With only 28 letters in the Arabic alphabet, today is a real milestone - you now know a quarter of all the Arabic alphabet letters. Promised it would be easy! Mabrook [ma-brook] congratulations and well done :-)


The Sound of KHaa
KHaa is the second letter in the Arabic alphabet we have come across which does not have an equivalent sound in English and is definately not the same as the English letter 'K'.  It is a far stronger and deeper sound.

To say Khaa correctly, imagine you have something stuck in your throat and you need to get rid of it. Try clearing your throat from the back of your mouth and make a 'Khaa' sound at the same time. You should be able to feel the sound being made at the back of the roof of your mouth, a sort of rippling of the back of the roof of the mouth.

What you're aiming for is the sound of the letters 'ch' in the Scottish pronunciation of the word 'Loch'. To make sure you've got the correct tone practice making the sound a few times and then check your pronunciation with a native Arab speaker.


KHaa: Reading and Writing
Khaa is written in exactly the same way as the previous two letters, Jiim and Haa, but this time the dot goes above the letter like this:

Below you'll see the letter KHa in all four positions (read from right to left), independent, initial, medial and final. Once again, as with baa, taa, thaa and Jaa, always draw the lines first, then the dot/s:



Examples of the Letter 'KHaa'

Initial
In the example below, 'KHaa' starts the word 'Khalifa' and the next word 'bin' starts with a 'baa':






Medial

Below are a couple of examples of the letter 'KHaa' placed in the middle of a word.  The first KHaa occurs in the middle of the word 'exit' or mukroj [muKH-rooJ]





TASK 1:
How many alif's, taa's and Jiim's can you find in the photos above? In what form do they occur; independent, initial, medial or final?


Final
In the following example KHaa is written in the final form.  

In the first photograph the KHaa occurs at the end of the word 'Shaikh'.  

The word preceeding that you should be able to recognise, 'bait' in Arabic or in English, 'house'.  Remember, nouns always, always, always come before adjectives in Arabic.






Hide & Seek 1
See how many of the most recent letters you have learnt, 'KHaa', 'Haa' {wgaw blog archive: 16/o4} and 'Jiim' {wgaw blog archive: 11/o4} you can find in the photos below.  

Once you've found them decide in which format they occur; initial, medial, final or independent:



The first line in the photo above says; 'society Gulf disablity'  it then goes on to say;
"Regional majlis [maj-lis] (the place, which is outside a house, where you sit and talk with your friends/colleages) charity Gulf Arabic".



Hide & Seek 2
Now see how many alif's, baa's, taa's and thaa's you can find in the two photos above.


Overview
1. The seventh letter of the Arabic alphabet is called KHaa
2. The are four different forms of the letter KHaa; independent, initial, medial and final
3. The letter KHaa changes its form depending on its location in the word, but the basic structure is always the same; one dot below the line
4. KHaa is a connector and so joins with the letter which preceed and follow it.


Practice/Homework
Should you wish to practice writing the letter 'KHaa':
1. Complete all the tasks in the article above
2. Using lined paper write the letter 'KHaa' in all four forms, as many times as you can; initial, medial, final and independent. Because taa is a connector you'll be able to connect 'KHaa' initial, followed by taa medial, and completed by taa final. A minimum of 20 repetitions is suggested, always remembering to write the lines first and then the dots.
3. Look for examples of the letter KHaa in road signs and try to work out the sound of the letter following it, using deduction from the English translation. This should start to build confidence in your ability to read Arabic.


What's Next?
The next letter of the Arabic alphabet to be explained is the letter 'daal' and this will be posted on Thursday, 11th March {see wgaw blog archive: 11/o5}



Wednesday, March 4, 2009

On Being Sterile

Having a child is seen as an essential part of life here and you are deemed extremely unlucky if you ~have scrambled eggs~ are unable to have children.


Urban Legends
1.
A friend remembers walking through the suq on her way to work and being stopped by one of her co-workers, a Bahraini. He had stuck his head out of the office door as she walked past and had shouted, at the top of his voice,
“Hello”

She stopped, turned around and replied,
“Hello”.

He shouted back,
"Where are your children?”

To which she replied,
“I don’t have any.”

Leaning further out of his office door he continued to shout,
"No eggs, that’s what it is, no eggs.”

She said she was rather glad no one else was about at the time and made her excuses to leave.

As she walked further into the suq she had no choice but to listen as he continued to shout at her back,
"My wife has a friend who has no eggs, she went to a doctor, do you want to meet my wife’s friend? I can arrange it. She had no eggs and she only paid, it was very cheap, she only paid SR 10,000 and now she has four babies. She had four babies all at the same time. I can arrange it, why don’t you come and meet her? My wife wouldn’t mind.”

At which point she went and hid in a shop.


2
Another friend's husband was talking with a Wahabi {see wgaw blog archive: Creeds of Islam} business colleague. As they were talking the colleague asked my friend's husband why he didn’t have children.  Her husband replied it was because,

"My wife is unable to have children.”

Quick as a flash the man suggested a solution,
"Take another wife then. Have two wives, one for sex and the other one for babies.”


Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Madrooba

Madrooba (also spelt: maadroba/ maadrooba/ madruba, but all pronounced in the same way [ma'd-drew-ba] ) is Arabic comfort eating at its best. It looks somewhat like baby food when it's made, but it's blissful to eat and several kilos is never enough!!



The recipe below comes from my husband's niece Mona and she has, over the years, modified it to perfection.


Ingredients
1,200g boiled chicken, bones and skin removed (boil with the bones for extra flavour, but remove the skin as it makes the dish taste wrong)
9 cups chicken stock
2 cups jareesh [jaa-reesh] (a.k.a. cracked wheat)
1 kilo fresh tomatoes
1 kilo onions, chopped
2 tablespoons tomato paste
1 tablespoon madras curry
1 teaspoon tumeric
1/2 teaspoon ground cinamon
1 teaspoon ground cardamom
2 green chillis
4 garlic cloves, chopped
2 tablespoons salt
1/2 glass oil
6 tablespoons ghee (clarified butter)


Method
Mix all ingredients together in a large saucepan {see future wgaw blog archive: }, put on the stove top and boil. Once the mixture has boiled, reduce the heat and simmer for at least two hours.

During the two hour simmering process beat the mixture at least once every half hour (hence its name, madrooba; to beat) in order to ensure it becomes a smooth paste-like texture.

Serve hot. If you have any left over it can be frozen and then re-heated as wanted/ needed/ craved for.





Monday, March 2, 2009

Children's Games

Today's post is a trip back in time - my husband has very fond memories of three games he used to play in childhood and which are desribed below:


Dawama [daa-waa-mah]
Dawama is a spinning top made from wood and string - the centre of the spinning top is taken out and a small piece of metal (made by a blacksmith) is inserted to make it stronger. The idea was to damage the other person’s top.


Image taken from: www.helga.com/collections/yemen/people/8kids2.jpg (faboulous images from across the Arabian peninsula)


Gutalaguti [gut-ta-la-gut-ti]
This involves two teams of children, two sticks made from dried palm leaves and a small stone. One stick needs to be about 1 ½ to 2 feet and the other needs to be about 6 inches long.

The smaller stick is put on the ground, with one end resting on the stone – one end touches the floor and the other end is in the air. The idea is to hit the small stick with the big stick and curl it into the air. As the stick flies up you then hit it again to see how far you can hit it.

The person who has hit the stick has to run around an area marked out like a baseball or cricket pitch. Whilst this is happening the other team has to catch the stick.

Whilst the person is running they must repeat the name of the game, “gut-ta-la-gut-ti, gut-ta-la-gut-ti, gut-ta-la-gut-ti”. It is impossible to score a run if you don’t repeat the name of the game whilst running.


Hayshaysha [hay-shay-shah]
This game would be played only on Ramadan evenings when parents were safely out of the way. It is like a military game without weapons and involves two teams.

At the beginning of the game the rules are decided by the size of the team and all who are playing; where to go and where not to go.

One team hides and the other team counts to 10 or 100. Once the number has been reached, the team who has counted runs around to find the team which has hidden. The aim of the game is to catch members of the opposition one by one, if you see someone you must run after him until you catch him.

The best place for this game to be played is in the small alleys and deserted houses in the suq, and it also needs darkness in order to hide effectively.


Sunday, March 1, 2009

Halal or Haram?

Today's posting contemplates the five substances which are, according to Islam, known as haram [ha-rram] or prohibited. The five items are: pork, alcohol, dead meat, al zinnah and riba and all five are explained in more detail below:


1. Pork
Pork and all pork devrivatives (e.g. pork scratchings, gelatine) are banned because of the following Koranic verses

1.1 The Table 5:3
"You are forbidden carrion, blood and the felsh of swine; also any flesh dedicated to any other than God."

1.2 Cattle 6:145
"Say: 'I find nothing in what has been revelaed to me that forbids men to eat of any food except carrion, running blood, and the fesh of swine - for these are unclean - and any flesh that has been profanely consecrated to gods other than God.'"

1.3 The Bee 16:115
"He has forbidden you carrion, blood and the felsh of swine; also any flesh consecrated other than in the name of God. But whoever is compelled thorugh necessity, intending neither to sin nor to transgress, will find that God is forgiving and merciful. You shall not falsely declare; 'This is lawful and that is forbidden' in order to invent a falsehoold about God. Those who invent falsehoods about God shall never prosper."


2. Alcohol
Alcohol and alcohol derivatives (e.g. gripe water and rubbing alcohol.  Items such as deodorants and grapes are not used/consumed by the more austere) because of the following verses in the Koran:

2.1 The Cow 2:219
They ask you about drinking and gambling. Say: 'There is great harm in both, although they have some benefit for men; but their harm is far greater than their benefit."

2.2 Women 4:43
"Belivers, do not approach your prayers when you are drunk, but wait till you can grasp the meaning of your words."

2.3 The Bee 16:67
"And the fruits of the palm and the vine, from which you derive intoxicants and wholesome food. Surely in this there is a sign for men of understanding."

2.4 The Table 37:47
"Belivers, wine and games of chance, idols and divining arrows, are abominations and devised by Satan. Avoid them, so that you may propser. Satan seeks to stir up enmity and hatred among you by means of wine and gambling, and to keep you from the rememberance of God and from your prayers. Will you not astain from them?"

2.5 That Which is Coming 56:6
"They shall recline on jewelled couches face to face, and there shall wait on them imortal youths with bowls and ewers and a cup of the purest wine (that will neither pain their heads nor take away their reason)."

2.6 The Unjust 83:22
"The rightous wil surely dwell in bliss. Reclining upon soft couches they will gaze around them: and in their faces you shall mark the glow of joy. They shall be given a pure wine to drink, securely sealed, whose very dregs are musk (for this let all men emoulously strive); a wine tempered with the water of Tasnim, a spring at which the favoured will refresh themselves."


3. Dead Meat
Dead meat is meat which has not been slaughtered in a Halal method. That is when the animal has the knife drawn across its throat, the blood leaves the animal, at which time a Koranic verse is recited.

3.1 The Table 5:3
"You are forbidden the flesh of strangled animals and of those beaten or gored to death; of those killed by a fall or mangled by beast of prey (unless you make it clean by giving the death stroke yourselves) also of animals sacrified to idols."


4. Al Zinnah
The act of having sex with someone you are not married to. {see wgaw blog archives: 15/o3, 13/o2 and 11/o2}

4.1 The Belivers 23:1
"Blessed are the believers, who are humble in their prayers; who avoid profane talk, and give alms ot the destitute; who restrain their carnal desires (except with their wives and slave-girls, for these are lawful to them: transgressors are those who lust after others than these)."

4.2 The Ladders 70:22
"Who restrain their carnal desire (save with their wives and slave-girls, for these are lawful to them)."

4.3 The Confederate Tribes 33:50
"Prophet, We have made lawful to you the wives to whom you have granted dowries and the slave-girls whom God has given you as booty; the daughters of your paternal and maternal uncles and of your paternal and maternal aunts who fled with you and any beliving woman who give herself to the Prophet and whom the Prophet wishes to take in marriage. This priliege is yours alone, being granted to no other believer."


5. Riba [rib-bah]
Ursury or interest {see wgaw blog archive: 17/o3} is not allowed, as written in the Koran in the following locations:

5.1 Al Baqarah, 2:275
“Those that live on usury shall rise up before God like men whom Satan has demented by his touch, for they claim that trading is not different from usury. But God has permitted trading and made usury unlawful.”

5.2 Al Baqarah, 2:276-279
“God has laid his curse on usury and blessed almsgiving with increase. God bears no love for the impious and the sinful. Those that have faith and do good works, attend to their prayers and render the alms levy will be rewarded by their Lord and will have nothing to fear or to regret. Believers have fear of God and waive what is still due to you from usury, if your faith be true; or war shall be declared against you by God and His apostle. If you repent, you may retain your principal, suffering no loss and causing loss to none.”

5.3 The Imrans, 3:130-2
“Believers, do not live on usury, doubling your wealth many times over. Have fear of God that you may prosper.

5.4 Al Nisa, 4:161
“Because time after time they have debarred others from the path of God; because they practice usury - although they were forbidden it - and cheat others of their possession.”

5.5 Al Rum, 30:39
“That which you seek to increase by usury will not be blessed by God; but the alms you give for His sake shall be repaid to you many times over.”


Additional Items
As quoted in, 'The Table 37:47', games of chance (gambling), idols (e.g. faces removed in paintings for Muharram {see wgaw blog archive: 17/o2}) and divining arrows (fortune telling), are also frowned upon and banned in many Muslim countries.


Halal
That which is allowed, according to the Koran.


Please Note:
All quotes are taken from 'The Koran' translated by N. J. Dawood, 1993, Penguin, London, ISBN: 0-14-044558-7

Saturday, February 28, 2009

Dust Storms

We've been having dust storms for quite some time across the entire GCC and the house is coated with a heavy, sand coloured dust that just won't go away, no matter how many times you try and remove it.

Because it's been said so many times before, I'm not sure why I'm writing it, but anyway here goes; there is no word in Arabic for snow (the nearest description seems to be, 'fluffy ice' [thel-jH moo-gut-tan]). However, there are several descriptive words in Arabic for the various types of sand, dust and wind:


Sand & Dust
dust storm:
arsifa al ghubar [arrse-see-fah al GHu-barr]

sand storm:
arsifa al ramleah [arrse-see-fah al rram-lee-ah]

desert:
sahara [sa-ha-ra] rather than the English [sa-har-rah]

off road sandy area:
mutaqa ramleah [mut-Ta-Qa rram-lee-ah]

sand dune:
taaz [ta-aaz]

sand dunes:
kuthban ramlee [Kuth-baan rram-lee]


Wind
air:
hawar [ha-warr] (just enough to let you know it's there)

breeze:
nesmah [nes-mah]

wind:
reah [rree-ah] + rear [ree-arr]

north wind (cold-ish, april/may):
shamal [sha-maal] (weather reports on the radio will say something like, "strong shamal winds today")

south wind (hot, june/july):
kaws [cows]


Media Reports
Three weeks ago the Gulf Daily News (An English lanugage newspaper in Bahrain) wrote the following article:

A THICK dust haze brought work at many construction sites to a standstill for several hours yesterday, while five flights had to be diverted due to poor visibility at Bahrain International Airport. Health officials also reported an increase in the number of patients reporting to hospital with respiratory problems.

The extreme weather was the result of a severe sandstorm over Southern Iraq, Civil Aviation Affairs Meteorological Directorate officials told the GDN.

They said it blew in across Kuwait and Saudi Arabia's Eastern Province, reducing visibility in some places to just 50 metres. The dust began to settle across the country at around 9am, but cleared substantially by around 10.30am.

Three Gulf Air flights - one each from Lahore, Kuwait and Muscat - were diverted, along with a Bahrain Air flight from Dubai and an Air India Express flight from Mangalore. However, sources said all flights reached Bahrain within a few hours after visibility improved.

Meanwhile, construction sites reported work stoppages for almost two hours, but supervisors said activity restarted at around 11am when the weather began to clear

http://www.gulf-daily-news.com/Story.asp?Article=242793&Sn=BNEW&IssueID=31329


Thursday, February 26, 2009

How to Read & Write Arabic: HAA o7

When reading the Arabic alphabet Haa follows on from the letter 'Jiim' and is very similar in shape, the same infact, but with no dot. In English I've written the letter Haa with a capital letter to indicate it has a strong sound.


Haa: Reading and Writing
As you now know for sure, Arabic letters change their form slightly depending on where they occur in the word (independent, initial, medial, or final). So once again, the letter, Haa will keep it's basic format no matter where it occurs in a word.

A 'Haa' like Jiim can be spotted because of the jaw shape above the line you write on. Below you'll see the letter 'Haa' in each of the four positions :







Pronouncing Haa
Haa is pronounced in a way which is different from any English letter and the sounds come from deep within the windpipe rather than in the mouth, and as the name suggests, it is a deep, strong Haa sound. To pronounce the letter imagine you have a tickle in your throat, at around the area of your adam's apple and you're trying to clear it.

Now say the sound 'Haa'. You should be able to feel your Adam's apple moving as you say the letter. Because of the limitations of the printed page I strongly recommend you check your pronunciation with a native Arab speaker.


Examples of the Letter, 'Haa'
Initial
In the example below, Haa starts the word and in the second example, 'one way' is located in the middle of a word, but follows alif, a non-connector and is therefore is in the initial format:








Medial
Below are three examples of the letter 'Haa' when it is found in the middle of a word:



In the example above, the Haa is found in the middle of the word 'Bahrain' (starts with an alif, al Bahrain). In the Arabic language adjectives follow nouns, so directly translated the sign above says, 'Fort Bahrain'.



In the example above we have a translation of the Arabic, 'suq crafts' (adjective followed by the noun) into English to make, 'Crafts Centre'



TASK 1
How many alif's can you find in the five photos above? In what form do they occur; independent, initial, medial or final?



Final
In the following example Haa is written in its final form and can be found at the very end of Sh. (shorted form of Sheikh) Salman's name (al FateH, with a strong H).


The photo below comes from a road sign for the village of Nabih Saleh in Bahrain.  You can now say the Saleh in the Arabic way, with a HH sound at the end:



TASK 2
How many baa's can you find in the photos above? In what form do they occur; independent, initial, medial or final?


Independent
The three photos below each have a singular Haa in its independent form:







TASK 3
How many taa's can you find in the three photos above? In what form do they occur; independent, initial, medial or final?




Hide and Seek
Look at the photo below and find the six letters you now know; alif, baa, taa, thaa, Jiim and Haa. When you’ve found them decide in which format they are written; initial, medial, final or independent:





Overview

1. The sixth letter of the Arabic alphabet is called 'Haa'
2. The are four different forms of the letter Haa; independent, initial, medial and final
3. The letter Haa changes its form depending on its location in the word, but the basic structure is always the same; one dot above the jaw shaped line
4. Haa is a connector and so joins with the letter which follows it.



Practice/ Homework [tam-reen/ waa-jib]

Should you wish to practice writing the letter 'Haa':

1. Complete all the tasks in the article above
2. Using lined paper write the letter 'Haa' in all four forms, as many times as you can; initial, medial, final and independent. Because 'Haa' is a connector you'll be able to connect a 'Haa' in its initial form to a 'Haa' in its medial form and complete by writing a 'Haa' in its final form. A minimum of 20 repetitions is suggested, always remembering to write the lines first and then the dots.



What's Next?

The next and seventh letter of the Arabic alphabet 'KHaa' will be posted on Thursday 5th March.



Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Zaatar

Zaatar (also spelt; zata, zatar, za'atar, zahtar, zaatah, zarter, but all said in the same way [zaa-ta]) is the Arabic name for a spice mixture of dried, crushed wild thyme (a.k.a. mountain oregano), sumac {see wgaw: SUMAC}, toasted sesame seeds and salt.


How to use Zaatar
In my experience zaatar is most often used as a spread for bread. It is mixed with olive oil [zeit zay-toon] and the resulting paste is then spread over a piece of lebanese bread [KHo-bis] or toast and then baked in the oven.  This works for vegetarian and vegan guests really well.

After cooking it is known as, 'fatayer bi zaatar' [fat'-tay-yerr bil zaa-ta] and/or mana'eesh [maa-na-aysh] and is simply gorgeous. The salt mixes into the herbs and the sesame seeds give it a little bit of a crunch. Fabulous for late, weekend breakfasts.



You can also cover small squares of flaky pastry in zaatar and cook them in the oven (so simple and so impressive: remove flaky pastry squares from freezer, defrost, cut each square into 4 smaller pieces, put on tray, sprinkle on zaatar, cook for approx. 10 mins)



In the week it's possible to buy just-cooked zaatar croissants from many of the large supermarkets and they sell them as hot, to-die-for, mid-morning snacks.

Zaatar can also be used to cover small pieces of white feta cheese (great with salads)



and also tomatoes. Finally, zaatar is also added to natural yougurts ~not my favourite~ and can be sprinkled over fried eggs ~a very Arabic taste~


More Information
I really liked this posting by Mercedes in Damascas: WHAT IS ZA'ATAR?

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Girls Names: M-Z

Today's post follows directly on from a previous posting {see wgaw blog archive: girls names} which gives the meanings of Arabic girls names from A-L. Again, Arabic girls names nearly always translate in to the positive, feel-good aspects of human nature. It's also one of the easiest ways to learn some vocabulary, just think of the person and you've got a new word.

The name and all possible spellings are posted, then the direct translation in English. A key point to notice is that many girls names end with the sound 'aa' or 'ah', this indicates the female form in Arabic. ~and again, the first two names on the list are exceptions to the rule~

I'll publish boys names in two sections, A-L and M-Z in the near future.


M
Maab; Place to which one returns
Maali; Noble things
Mada; Utmost point, degree
Madihah beautiful/ Madeeha; praiseworthy, commendable
Maha; Wild cow, eyes
Mahabbah; Love, affection
Mahasin; Beauties
Mahbubah; Beloved
Mahdiyah; Rightly guided
Mahibah; Noble, respected
Maimoona/ Maymunah; Auspicious, blessed, a wife of the Prophet
Maisah/ Maisa; Walks proud
Maizah; Discerning
Majidah/ Majida; Glorious
Makarim/ Makaarim; Good, honorable
Makkiyah; from Makkah
Maladh; Protection, shelter
Malakah; Talent
Maliha; Praising
Malikah; Queen
Manab; Deputyship, share
Manal/ Manaal; Attainment, achievement
Manar/ Manaar; Guiding light
Maram/ Maraam; Aspiration
Mariam/ Maryam; Arabic form of Mary
Mariyah; Fair complexion, a wife of the Prophet
Marwah; A mountain in Makkah
Marzuqah; Blessed by God, fortunate
Masahir; Ancient Arabic lute
Masarrah; Delight, joy
Masudah/ Masouda; Happy, lucky, fortunate
Mawaddah; Affection, love, friendliness
Mawahib; Talents
Mawiyah/ Mawiya; the essence of life, clear
May; Old Arabic name
Maymunah; Fortunate, a wife of the Prophet
Maysa/ Maysaa; Walking with pride
Maysam; Beautiful
Maysan; Star
Maysarah; Left hand side
Maysun/ Maysoon; Has a beautiful face
Melek; Angel
Meryl/ Meriel/ Muriel; Myrrh
Mina; A place near Makkah
Minnah; Kindness, grace, blessing
Mirah; Provisions, supply
Mishael; Torch, light
Mona; Wish, desire
Muazzaz; Powerful, strong
Mubin; Clear, obvious
Mufiah; Obedient, compliant
Mufidah/ Mufeeda; Useful, helpful, beneficial
Muhibbah; Loving
Muhjah/ Muhja; the blood from your heart
Muhsinah; Charitable, benevolent
Mukarram; Honored
Mukhlisah; Devoted, faithful
Mumayyaz; Distinguished
Muminah; Pious believer
Muna/ Mona; Wish, desire
Munawwar; Radiant, illuminated
Munirah/ Muneera; Illuminating, brilliant
Munisah; Friendly
Muntaha; the Highest degree
Murjanah; Small Pearl
Murshidah; Guide
Muruj; Meadows
Mushirah/ Musheera; Giving counsel, advising
Muslimah; Devout believer
Musn/ Musnah; Rain, clouds
Muyassar; Wealthy, successful


N
Nabihah/ Nabeeha; Intelligent
Nabilah/ Nabeela; Noble
Nadia; First
Nadidah/ Nadeeda; Equal, rival
Nadirah/ Nadira; Rare, precious
Nadiyah; Announcement
Nadwah/ Nadwa; Council, generosity
Nafisah, Nafeesa; Precious thing, gem
Naflah; Overabundance
Nahid; woman with full, round breasts
Nahidah/ Naheeda; Big
Nahlah/ Nahla; A drink of water
Nailah/ Naila; One who succeeds
Naima; Comfortable, tranquil
Najah/ Najaah; Successful
Najat; Safe
Najibah/ Najeeba; Distinguished, of noble birth
Najiyah; Safe
Najla; wide eyes
Najma/ Najmah; Star
Najwa; secret romantic conversations
Najya; Victorious
Namar; Name of a mountain
Narjis; Narcissus
Nashida; Student
Nashita; Energetic, full of life
Nashwa; Fragrance, perfume
Nasiha; gives valuable advice
Nasira; Victorious, helper
Nasmah; Breeze
Nasreen, Nasrin;
Nathifa; Clean, pure
Nawaf;
Nawal; Gift
Nawrah; Blossom, flower, happiness
Nazahah/ Nazaaha; Purity, righteousness, honesty
Nazihah/ Nazeeha; Honest
Nazirah/ Nazeera; Like, equal, matching
Nibal/ Nibaal; Arrows
Nibras; Lamp, light
Nida; Call
Nihad; Height
Nihal; Drink
Nimah/ Naeema; Blessing, loan
Nirmella;
Nisrin; an aromatic plant
Niyaf; Tall and pretty
Noora; Light
Nouf; Mountain peak
Nudar, Nudhar; Gold
Nuha; Intelligence
Nujud, Nojood; Noble, wise
Numa; beautiful, pleasant, happiness
Nunah; Dimple in the chin
Nurah, Noorah; Corolla, blossom
Nuriyah; Radiant, brilliant
Nusaibah/ Nusaybah; Old Arabic name
Nuwairah, Nuwayrah; Small fire
Nuwwarrah; Flower blossom
Nuzhah; Pleasure trip


O
Obaida;
Oma; Commanding
Omaima;
Qadr; Fate, destiny
Qadriyah; To believe in Gods will
Qismah; Destiny, fate
Qubilah; Concord
Qudsiyah; Glorious, sacred


R
Rabab; White cloud
Rabiah/ Rabeea; Garden, springtime
Rabiyah; Hill
Radiyah/ Radhiya; Content, satisfied
Radwa/ Radhwaa; A mountain in Medina
Rafa/ Rafah; Prosperity and luxuriant life
Rafah/ Rafat; Mercy
Rafal; Try on clothes
Rafiah; Sublime, exquisite
Rafidah; Support
Rafif; To shine, to shimmer
Raghad/ Raghda; Pleasant
Raha; Peaceful
Rahaf; Delicate, fine
Rahmah/ Rahimah; Merciful, compassionate
Rahimateh; Grace
Rahiq; Nectar
Raidah/ Raaida; Leader
Raifah; Merciful
Ramlah; Old Arabic name
Ramziyah; Symbolic
Randa; A tree with a beautiful scent
Ranim/ Raneem; to recite in a sing-song voice
Raniyah/ Raniya; Gazing
Rasha; Young Gazelle
Rashidah/ Rasheeda; Wise, mature
Rasmiyah; Official, formal
Rawah; Charm, beauty, splendor
Rawdah, Rawdha; Garden
Rawhah; Nice
Rawhiyah; Spirituality
Rawiah/ Raawiya; Speaks ancient Arabic poetry
Rihana/ Rayhanah; Sweet basil
Rayya/ Rayyaa; Full of drink
Razan/ Razaan; Sensibility and respect
Reema/ Rim/ Reem; Gazelle
Rida; Favored by God
Rihab; Vastness, expanse
Riham; Lasting, fine rain
Rouqaya/ Ruqayyah/ Ruqayya; Gentle, one of the Prophet’s daughtetrs
Rowan;
Rua; Dreams, visions
Rubaa; Hills, height
Rubadah; Ash colored
Rudainah/ Rudaynah; Old Arabic name
Rufaidah/ Rufaydah; Support
Rukan; Steady, confident
Rumailah/ Rumaylah; Old Arabic name
Rumaithah/ Rumaythah; Old Arabic name
Ruwaidah/ Ruwaydah; Walking gently
Ruyah; Dream, vision


S
Saba/ Sheba; A town in Yemen
Sabaa; A nice wind
Sabah; Morning
Sabihah; Beautiful
Sabirah/ Saabira/ Sabriyah/ Sabr; Patient
Sadad; Right thing to do, lucky
Sadah; Happiness
Sadira; Ostrich, runs from water
Sadiyah; Fortunate
Safa; Pure
Safaa; Clarity, purity, serenity, name of a hill in Makkah
Safeea/ Safiya/ Safeea/ Safiyyah; Untroubled, Serene, Pure,
Saffanah; Pearl, Name of a Wife of The Prophet
Safun; Breezing
Sagirah; Little One
Sahar; Dawn, Awakening
Sahlah/ Sahla; Smooth, Fluent, Flowing
Saidah; Happy, Fortunate
Saihah; Good, Useful
Saja; Calm and quiet
Sajidah; Prostrating to God
Sakinah/ Sakeena; Peace of mind
Salihah; Correct, agreeable
Salimah/ Saleema; Flawless, Faultless
Salma; Peaceful, safe, Healthy, Name of a Wife of the Prophet
Salsabil/ Salsabeel; Spring in Jannah
Salwa; Solace, Quail
Sama/ Samah/ Samaah; Generosity
Samar; Evening Conversation
Samarah; Soft Light
Samawah; Summit, Height
Sameh; Forgiver
Samihah/ Sameeha; Generous
Samira; Entertaining companion
Samiyah/ Saamiya; Elevated, Exalted, Lofty
Samra; Soft, Light Tanned Color
Sana/ Sanaa/ Saniyah; Brilliance, Splendor
Sarah/ Sara/ Sirah; Wife of the Prophet Ibrahim
Sarsoureh; Bug
Sauda/ Sawdah; Wife of the Prophet Mohammed
Sawsan; Lily Of The Valley
Sayyidah; Lady, Woman
Seema/ Simah; Sign, Characteristic, Expression
Sfiyah; Righteous
Shadan; Young Gazelle
Shadha/ Shadhaa; Aroma
Shadhiyah; Aromatic
Shadiyah; Singer
Shafiqah; Compassionate, Sympathetic
Shahd; Honey, Honeycomb
Shahidah; Witness
Shahirah; Well known, Famous
Shahlah; Blush
Shahrazad; The teller of the 1,001 Nights
Shakirah; Thankful
Shamilah; Complete, comprehensive
Shanaz;
Sharifah/ Shareefa; Noble, honored
Shather;
Shawq; Longing
Shayma/ Shaymaa; to look out
Shifa; Curing, healing
Shimah; Nature, habit
Shimshad;
Shiyam; Nature, character
Shudun; Powerful, straight
Shuhrah; Fame, reputation
Shukrah; Thankfulness
Shukriyah; Thanks
Shunnareh; Pleasant
Shuruq; Rising, shining
Sibal/ Sibaal; Eyes with long lashes
Siddiqah; Upright, very truthful
Siham/ Sihaam; Arrows
Shirin/ Shireen; A wife of the Prophet’s companion, Hassan Ibn Thabit
Suad/ Souad; Good fortune
Subhah/ Subhiyah; In or of the morning
Suda; Happy, lucky
Suha; Name of a star
Suhaimah/ Suhaymah; Small arrow
Sukainah/ Sukaynah; Charming, likable
Sulafah; Choicest
Sultanah/ Sultana; Princess
Sumaira/ Sumayra;  from Samra
Sumaiyah/ Sumayyah; a companion of the Prophet
Sumnah;
Sunbul; grain
Sundus; Silk brocade
Sura/ Suraa; to travel by night


T
Tabassum; Smiling
Taghrid; Singing (like a bird)
Tahani; Congratulations
Tahirah/ Taahira; Pure, chaste
Tahiyah; Greeting
Taima/ Tayma; Oasis in northwest Arabia
Takiyah; Pious, righteous
Talah/ Taalah; Young palm tree
Talibah; Seeker of knowledge
Tamadur; Brilliant
Taqiyah; Heedful of God
Taqwa/ Taqwaa; Piety, devoutness
Tarub/ Taroob; Merry, happy
Tasnim; Fountain in paradise
Tawbah; Repentance
Thana/ Thanaa; Thankfulness, praise
Thara/ Tharaa, Tharwah; Wealth
Thawab; Reward
Thoora; Revolution
Thuraiya/ Thurayya; Star in the Pleiades
Thuwaibah/ Thuwaybah; Deserving of Gods, reward, name of a companion of the Prophet
Tibah; Goodness, kindness
Tuba/ Tubaa; Blessedness, heedfulness of God


U
Ubab/ Ubaab; Waves, heavy rain
Uhud; Commitment, delegation
Ula; Uppermost, highest
Ulfah; Harmony, intimacy
Ulima; Wise
Umamah; One of the Prophet’s granddaughters
Umniyah; A wish, an aspiration
Usaimah/ Usaymah; Old Arabic name
Ushd; Sensible conduct
Uwaisah/ Uwaysah; Bilberry, whortleberry


V
Vega; Falling


W
Wad; Promise
Wadeea;
Wadha/ Wadhaa; Bright
Wadiah; Calm, peaceable
Wafa/ Wafaa; Faithfulness
Wafiqah, Wafeeqa; Successful
Wafiyah; Loyal, faithful
Wahbiyah/ Wahibah; Giver, donor
Wahidah; Exclusive, unique
Wajd; Passion, strong emotion
Wajeeha/ Wajihah; Eminent, distinguished,
Wala/ Walaa; Loyalty
Walidah; Newborn
Walladah; Prolific
Waqi; Falling
Warda; Rose
Warqa/ Warqaa; Pigeon
Wasfiyah; Depictive
Wasimah; Pretty, beautiful
Wiam; Harmony, agreement
Widad/ Widaad; Love, friendship
Wifaq; Harmony, consent
Wijdan; Ecstasy, sentiment
Wisal/ Wisaal; Reunion, being together
Wisam/ Wisaam; Medal, badge of honor
Wurud; Roses


Y
Yafiah; High
Yakootah; Emerald
Yamha; Dove
Yaminah; Right and proper blessed
Yarah; Warm
Yasirah; Lenient
Yasmine/ Yasmin/ Yasmeen; Jasmine
Yumn; Good fortune, success
Yumnah/ Yumna; Right side
Yusra/ Yusraa; Most prosperous


Z
Zada/ Zayda/ Zaida; Lucky
Zafirah/ Zaafirah; Victorious, successful
Zahidah; Ascetic, abstentious
Zahirah; Shining, luminous
Zain/ Zayn; Beauty
Zainab/ Zaynab; an ornamental tree, one of the Prophet’s daughters
Zakiyah; Pure
Zanubiya; Name of a Syrian Queen
Zara/ Zahra; White, flower, beauty
Zaynah/ Zaina; Beautiful
Zenobia; Father's ornament
Zinah/ Zinat; Adornment, ornamentation
Zubahda; Excellence
Zuha/ Zuhaa; Adornment
Zuhrah; Brightness
Zuhur; To flower, blossom, glow
Zuleika; Fair, intelligent
Zumurrud; Emerald



Sunday, February 15, 2009

Hair Removal

I first wrote about hair removal on this blog a couple of weeks ago {see wgaw blog archive: hair removal} and attempted to explain the fact all Arab women remove all their body hair, on a regular basis. But somehow I think I failed to put across how it is approached or accepted here.

When an Arab woman waxes her forearms, lips or face it is seen as a very positive thing to do. Girls will discuss in great detail amongst themselves how their hair is growing back and many have electrolysis over their entire body.

Describing someone as having waxed their forearms would be a compliment for a woman in the GCC. Women here wax their entire bodies for all special occaisions and especially when they marry. It has extremly sexy connotations for just about all the Arab men I know.


Urban Legends
1

A friend's husband once told her Arabic women always shaved their pubic hairs in the summer and when they were getting married. She asked him to elaborate as she couldn't imagine he'd know such intimate details without there being something fishy going on.
His reply?
“Anything and everything to do with weddings and body parts was open to discussion between women and men in the run up to a marriage.” ~ummm~

2
One day in class one of the students said to me,
"Don't get angry when I tell you this. My wife got angry when I told her, but you mustn't get angry."
I promised not to get angry and wondered what on earth it could be that the student was going to tell me.
Then he said, "It's personal, and you mustn't get angry."
Again I promised not to get angry and asked again what it was he wanted to tell me.
Finally he blurted it out; "Your hair, the hair on your face. Have you ever thought of having it removed?"
And he made a rubbing motion on his cheeks with his hand. I replied I had never thought of having it removed.
"I told my wife to remove her hairs. I told her she'd look much nicer without them on her face. So would you."
He continued,
"And I think your husband would prefer you that way too. You should do it."
I said I would think about it.
"You must, it would be much better."

Saturday, February 14, 2009

Valentines Day

14th February is Valentines Day in much of the western world, but is a banned activity in Saudi Arabia {see wgaw blog archive: banned}.

The rest of the Gulf appears to have embraced the idea and everyone will send everyone (espcially girls to girls) enormous bunches of flowers, chocolates, teddy bears and greeting cards. Last year the office was covered in red roses and looked quite fabulous.



Language
In Arabic there is no distinction between the English words, 'love' and, 'like' there's just the one word, 'Habb' which can and is used in the following ways; 'I love' [a-habb], I love macdonnalds [a-habb macdonnalds], I love you [a-habb-bick (m)/bitch (f)], I like you [a habb-bick (m)/bitch (f)] .


Emotions
Valentines Day seems to spark quite deep emotions in people (check out the anoymous comment at the bottom of the page); some people love it and some don't.


Media Reports
Decided it was better to let the Saudi's speak for themselves than giving my thoughts on the banning. Here's two reports which explain what ~doesn't~ go on quite well.

1.
The CNN posting (12-02-09) about Valentines Day in Saudi Arabia: www.edition.cnn.com/2008/WORLD/meast/02/12/saudi.valentine/index.html

"Saudi Arabia has asked florists and gift shops to remove all red items until after Valentine's Day, calling the celebration of such a holiday a sin, local media reported Monday. With a ban on red gift items over Valentine's Day in Saudi Arabia, a black market in red roses has flowered.

"As Muslims we shouldn't celebrate a non-Muslim celebration, especially this one that encourages immoral relations between unmarried men and women, " Sheikh Khaled Al-Dossari, a scholar in Islamic studies, told the Saudi Gazette, an English-language newspaper.

Every year, officials with the conservative Muslim kingdom's Commission for the Promotion of Virtue and Prevention of Vice clamp down on shops a few days before February 14, instructing them to remove red roses, red wrapping paper, gift boxes and teddy bears. On the eve of the holiday, they raid stores and seize symbols of love.

Ahmed Al-Omran, a university student in Riyadh, told CNN that the government decision will give the international media another reason to make fun of the Saudis "but I think that we got used to that by now."

"I think what they are doing is ridiculous," said Al-Omran, who maintains the blog 'Saudi Jeans.' ~link at right hand side of this blog, under the heading 'my blog list'~ "What the conservatives in this country need to learn is something called 'tolerance.' If they don't see the permissibility of celebrating such an occasion, then fine -- they should not celebrate it. But they have to know they have no right to impose their point of view on others."

Because of the ban on red roses, a black market has flowered ahead of Valentine's Day. Roses that normally go for five Saudi riyal ($1.30) fetch up to 30 riyal ($8) on February 14, the Saudi Gazette said.

"Sometimes we deliver the bouquets in the middle of the night or early morning, to avoid suspicion," one florist told the paper."

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An article by Donna Abu-Nasr which can be found at:
www.google.com/hostednews/ap/article/ALeqM5g5YhZtvKPMPi4-EHjH7M6_VDUG8gD96A628G1

"Just days before Valentine's Day, a young Saudi woman desperately searched for a red teddy bear to buy for her boyfriend. But all Nof Faisal could find were blue and white ones, minus the "I love you" she wanted hers to declare.
It's not because the store couldn't keep up with demand. It is because fear of the religious police forced the store's owner to strip the shelves of all red items, including the hottest-selling item: heart-festooned red plastic handcuffs inscribed, "Take me, I'm yours."

As Feb. 14 approaches, the police begin inspecting gift shops for items that are red or are intended as gifts to mark the holiday — a celebration of St. Valentine, a 3rd century Christian martyr — which is banned in Saudi Arabia. Such items are legal at other times of the year, but as Valentine's Day nears they become contraband.

At best, shops caught selling Valentine's gifts are ordered to get rid of them. Some salesmen have been detained for days.
The Valentine's Day prohibition is in line with the ascetic Wahhabi school of Islam that the kingdom follows. Celebrating any holidays but the two most important for Muslims — Eid al-Adha and Eid al-Fitr_ is taboo because they are considered "religious innovations" that Islam does not sanction. Even birthdays and Mother's Day are frowned on by the religious establishment.

As Feb. 14 approaches, newspapers reprint a fatwa or religious edict issued by scholars a few years ago, declaring "eid al-hob," Arabic for the feast of love, a "Christian, pagan feast" that Muslims should not celebrate. Teachers remind students they must not mark the festival, and girls are warned against wearing anything red.

Nevertheless, Valentine's Day quietly creeps into the capital, Riyadh: While gift stores don't trumpet their Valentine's wares, they acquire a deep red hue as shelves are stocked with artificial flowers, heart-shaped frames and other knickknacks.

Lingerie stores display red lacy underwear and sheer short nighties. Boxes packed with teddy bears, some inscribed with "I love you," appear on supermarket shelves. Newspapers advertise diamond and ruby heart-shaped pendants.

And salesmen urge shoppers to snap up their gifts early because no one knows when the religious police will begin their rounds.

"My colleague spent a night in jail last year because of the color red," said one salesman, who insisted on anonymity, fearing his colleague's fate.

It is a challenge for courting Saudi couples to be together at any time of the year because of strict gender segregation. Unmarried men and women cannot take a drive together, have a meal or even talk on the street unless they are close relatives. Dating consists of long phone conversations and the rare tryst. Infractions are punished by detention.

"I wish things were different," said Faisal, a 20-year-old student, who said she would like to be wined and dined by her boyfriend. She has arranged to have red roses, a red box containing perfume, chocolate and a CD of love songs delivered to him.

Abdul-Aziz al-Shammari bought his girlfriend 10 red roses — one for each month he's known her — five days before Valentine's Day and stored the bouquet in his refrigerator to keep it fresh.

"I don't consider it a day venerating (St.) Valentine," said al-Shammari, a 24-year-old student. "I see it as an international day of love."

For at least businessmen, the commercial draw of the holiday was too strong. Waleed al-Khuleiwi's store was perhaps the only one in Riyadh still brimming with Valentine's goods with just days to go. His cheeky defense:
"I'm not selling the items with the intention of celebrating Valentine's."