tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5621991582815326375.post1928598690536787290..comments2023-11-28T05:42:13.914+03:00Comments on wgaw: MourningShirley Sunmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03115026235220690768noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5621991582815326375.post-89344510804052177552009-07-13T18:27:36.359+03:002009-07-13T18:27:36.359+03:00wgawa,
Just some of my thoughts:
a) In Islam mou...wgawa,<br /><br />Just some of my thoughts:<br /><br />a) In Islam mourning a dead person is advised to be limited to what the heart feels and the tears that come from your eyes. What's discouraged or even forbidden is the wailing, cursing, and beating oneself, as in women who slap their cheeks or chests out of grief. Prophet Muhammad [saws] said, paraphrased, that at the time of someone's death, what comes from our heart and from the eyes is from God, but what comes from the mouth and the hands is from Shaytan - i.e. wailing and beating oneself. <br /><br />b) Women are not allowed to attend the immediate burial right at the grave for this very reason, to prevent them from becoming overly hysterical. You asked "so what if they do?" well if you think about it, any time a person becomes overly hysterical (man or woman) they often end up doing something they'll regret. That being said, I've seen young men lose their composure at burials and its really sad. Women can congregate at a nearby distance, in the graveyard itself.<br /><br />c) Women are allowed to go to the graveyard afterwards and pray for the deceased.<br /><br />d) Islam doesn't actually stipulate same-day burial, but its recommended to have the burial ASAP so you'll find that often the funeral and burial are done within 24 to 48 hours max. There's been times when I'm at the office and I get a call that so-and-so died yesterday evening and the burial is today, like just after the noon or late afternoon prayers, and often I dont have time to go attend. Thankfully, others from teh community do attend. <br /><br />cheersMaverickhttp://maverick007.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5621991582815326375.post-30643075301384914342009-04-20T08:43:00.000+03:002009-04-20T08:43:00.000+03:00OMG women might cry. Heaven forbid. :p
That does...OMG women might cry. Heaven forbid. :p<br />That doesn't seem fair to me as well ... the total gender segregation thing is a hot topic with me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5621991582815326375.post-58947547605954005622009-04-02T18:07:00.000+03:002009-04-02T18:07:00.000+03:00Oh, separation during the wedding is so that the w...Oh, separation during the wedding is so that the women who hijab and what not can dress up in evening clothes and dance, generally in mixed weddings, muhajaba women have to cover their beautiful evening gowns or forgo them entirely and not dance. I personally prefer mixed weddings.Gardens of Sandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09626677130676229027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5621991582815326375.post-35473191193229939802009-04-02T18:05:00.000+03:002009-04-02T18:05:00.000+03:00Mmm I think Sunnis discourage women from attending...Mmm I think Sunnis discourage women from attending the burial and visiting cemetries. My cousin's father recently passed away (God rest his soul) and when my cousin demanded to attend the prep and burial of her father, all hell broke loss. She attended nevertheless and much to ppl's dismay visited his grave weekly.<BR/><BR/>I don't know if the no women principle is for Shias though. When my granma passed away, several aunts and cousins attended her burial. Also its a common practice in my father's family to visit (men and women go) deceased family members on the major holidays.Gardens of Sandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09626677130676229027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5621991582815326375.post-85210883214891030602009-04-01T06:07:00.000+03:002009-04-01T06:07:00.000+03:00In reality I find the seperation of the sexes at t...In reality I find the seperation of the sexes at this time quite cruel ~same goes for weddings, why on earth can't you share the most important times in your life with your male relatives?~ And all because women might cry, become hysterical? So what if they do? Emotions, aren't they an integral part of life and death? And showing them, isn't that part of life and death too? However, I'm in favour of holding the funeral on the same day, no matter what.Shirley Sunmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03115026235220690768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5621991582815326375.post-80170876803695614752009-03-31T22:25:19.966+03:002009-03-31T22:25:19.966+03:00This comment has been removed by the author.Noorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03093075598975636876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5621991582815326375.post-41462172622101966082009-03-31T19:40:00.000+03:002009-03-31T19:40:00.000+03:00yah the only thiing i amnot happy with is that wom...yah the only thiing i amnot happy with is that women cant attend the burial. if it was my husband i would want to see him laid to rest. i think its a huge part of the grieving process.Angehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03751004141029620703noreply@blogger.com